What Is Integrated Attachment Theory?

Identify and breakthrough subconscious patterns of attachment in all life relationships. Learn what it is to be securely attached, what that looks like and experientially feels like to feel safe, to feel secure, to trust, to express, and to be present to vulnerability, both yours and others. Draw correlation between your upbringing, style of attachment, and the thoughts, beliefs and patterns formed through repetition, modeling, adaptation, and experiential reinforcement.

Update "default" thought patterns, behaviors and limiting beliefs to ones that reflect and align with your values, needs, wants and desires. Once you learn and use this tool, not only will you update long-standing tendencies, but monitor thoughts as life experience occur.

Understand your primary and tertiary needs, draw correlation between these needs and relationship patterns. Learn how you are currently getting your needs met, and secure, healthy, sustainable ways to meet these needs yourself, and communicate them to others.

Understanding your needs opens the door to communicating the boundaries you have regarding your time, energy and resources, allowing you and others to appreciate, respect and honor your needs through appropriate boundaries.

Experience the empowerment and freedom that comes with clear, effective communication. Finally become comfortable expressing yourself, asking for what you need, saying what you can and cannot do or accept. Become comfortable feeling, expressing emotions, being vulnerable.

Understand that you were a child when attachment patterns were formed. Everyone has an attachment style and a way of navigating in their relationships. You are not how you navigate. You are not your thoughts, beliefs, behaviors or patterns. You are not even the one who tells the story of your life experience thus far. You are the one observing all of this, and that aspect of you is your original, inherent self. As we come to see ourselves as we truly are, a love and compassion grows within us, understanding and loving the child who was only being their beautiful self and navigating life and situations, more often than not, with adults unprepared for the responsibility of guiding the beautiful being you are. Understanding that our caregivers likely did not experience good modeling themselves, invites understanding and compassion for all. Our attachment pattern is not our fault, but it is our responsibility and opportunity, once we understand it.

Conflict in life will occur. Observe how you currently see conflict and operate within it. Learn how to navigate conflict, how to create a safe container, "hold space," self-soothe, emotionally self-regulate, mindfully communicate.